Maybe one way of making change in effective doses is not to bring up a discomfort at the first available oppportunity. It requires self-control but it’d be helpful if I could be sure my silence on a subject would lead to eventual adjustments. Otherwise being quiet feels somewhat like spinning my wheels, and weak, unwilling to take action.
“Pivoting.” Removing focus from the unwanted to the wanted in a moment of negativity is called pivoting, and is supposed to change one’s experience of reality.
It is really difficult to do when I am pissed off.
“It was only once I vowed to stop criticizing and carping that I realized the strength of my instinct to criticize and carp.” – The Happiness Project